Decide to Be Happy Now

Good Life

I’m realizing that Good Life feels like getting over the hump.

Not because everything is fixed.

Not because every part of my life is perfect.

But because something in me is shifting.

For so long, life felt like something I had to keep postponing until things got better, calmer, safer, or more certain.

But this part of my journey feels different.

It feels like a quiet crossing.

A bridge from waiting, sacrificing, and self-abandonment....the energy I recognized in "China" ....toward taking a chance on actually living, which is where "Break My Heart " begins to lead me.

A bridge between surviving and allowing joy.

Between old patterns and the woman I’m becoming.

For me, Good Life feels deeply connected to The Art of Becoming because becoming isn’t only about what I understand. It’s also about the choices I make from that understanding and how willing I am to live differently in the present moment.

Sometimes understanding the shift isn’t the final step.

Sometimes we also have to find the courage to cross into it.

And maybe that’s what this season is teaching me...

The good life isn’t only something waiting for me somewhere ahead.

It’s something I have to be willing to step into now.

Not a dramatic ending.

Not a perfect life.

Just a quiet crossing.

It isn’t about waiting for the good life to happen.

It’s about participating in creating it now, and, like the song says, “when everything is up, you have to take it in.”

In what ways have you postponed your own happiness?

With love,

Ms. B

China: When Longing Isn’t Intimacy

This reflection actually began with a dream I had, about an old pattern of mine.

Someone from my past appeared in it, and when I woke up, I could feel that the dream wasn’t necessarily about the person themselves or about them returning to my life. It felt more like the dream was showing me an old emotional experience I needed to understand more clearly. The feeling of waiting, yearning, and hoping for closeness that never quite becomes the intimacy you desire.

Then Tori Amos’ China found its way back into my awareness.

And suddenly, the message became clearer.

Sometimes two people can care deeply about one another, even occupy the same emotional or physical space, and still feel worlds apart.

When you love someone, it can be easy to begin living inside the possibility of what the relationship could become.

Maybe when things settle down.

Maybe when they’re ready.

Maybe when circumstances change.

Maybe eventually we’ll finally meet each other in the place I keep believing is possible.

But somewhere between the dream and the song, I understood something....

Potential is not partnership, and yearning is not intimacy.

There is a difference between loving someone and continually postponing your own needs while waiting for them to become available for the kind of relationship you desire.

And perhaps one of the harder truths to accept is that something can be meaningful, loving, and real, and still not be enough for you to build your life around.

Understanding that doesn’t make the love meaningless.

It simply allows you to stop asking your present life to wait for a future that hasn’t arrived.

Sometimes our dreams, songs, conversations, or seemingly ordinary moments become breadcrumbs leading us toward an understanding we are finally ready to see.

Maybe the invitation is to ask yourself:

Am I experiencing intimacy, or am I longing for the intimacy I hope will eventually exist?

And even more importantly:

What am I actually being offered right now?

Because once we understand what is true in the present, we have the freedom to choose from there. 

With love,

Ms. B

Break My Heart: Learning to Receive Without Losing Myself

Today's message started off with Dua Lipa song Break My Heart, which in turn led me down the path of understanding.

 I had recently asked my spirit team to help me heal the part of myself that struggles to receive. And lately, life has been showing me exactly where that block lives... in love, money, openness, and my relationship with safety. I’m beginning to understand that receiving doesn’t require me to abandon myself. And protecting myself doesn’t require me to close myself off from life.

To stop being so closed off to the point of being unable to receive, and learning how to trust yourself enough not to abandon yourself inside of it all. Whether it is at a job where you've operated as a workhorse or relationships with others where you over gave and depleted yourself,  and any other aspect of your life where this energy shows up. Trust yourself enough that you can let go of fear and trust yourself to make better choices for yourself in those moments. Find the balance between no longer abandoning yourself and no longer closing yourself off.  Allow yourself to enjoy your life and feel love, passion, happiness and joy and yes even abundance financially as well.

Sometimes the message doesn't always initially show up crystal clear when we ask for it, but you will find little bread crumbs that lead you to understanding the truth about yourself and from there you can start integrating that truth and work on the art of becoming. Which is based on the philosophy of Ms B's Place of Understanding.

Maybe this is your invitation to notice where you may have confused protecting yourself with closing yourself off. Where are you being asked to trust yourself enough to receive...love, joy, support, abundance, or simply more of life, without abandoning yourself in the process?

You don’t have to force the answer. Just notice the breadcrumbs.

With love,

Ms. B